Isn’t the grass ALWAYS greener on the other side??

So, I had a brief visit with my hairdresser today (actually my mom’s hairdresser, but anyways). As she was cutting my hair in her well equipped basement, she kept going on and on about her husband. That her husband just won’t wake up, that he was up late playing games on the computer and now all he wants to do is sleep. She just wouldn’t stop talking about it, she even went as far as to say that she wants to find another husband and that my mom’s husband is better than hers. And after we all laughted at it for a little while, (cause she said it really funny), I started to think – Why do we always have the perception that other people’s lives are better than ours? Why are we constantly trying to find something better? Why are we never satisfied with what we have? And why, oh why does the grass always seem greener on the other side??

The answer is simple. When we observe other people’s lives, it is usually only for a little while. And in that little while, we will probably see these people acting on their best behaviours, and we immediately form a good impression of them. All we usually get is a tiny inkling of how they really are, and most of the times, we like it. But, as you get to know someone better, you realise – hey, this person is messed up. They have all these problems and issues, small issues,  but they have issues. WE ALL HAVE ISSUES!! We are not perfect, we all say things we shouldn’t, we all do things we shouldn’t and we all make mistakes. We all fight, we all get pissed off at each other and we all sometimes want to leave. But, we should try to remember, your next relationship or marriage will also have problems, infact you will have new problems and you will have to find new ways of dealing with them. Don’t get me wrong, if your relationship or marriage is just bad, then by all means – move on, but if it is mostly good, then try to ignore the small stuff – it will be beneficial.

While it always does seem like the grass is greener on the other side, just remember – when you get to the other side, you just may wanna come back….